What are the Signs of Aspergers Syndrome
I have a daughter diagnosed with both Aspergers Syndrome and PDD-NOS… both of which are classified under Autism Spectrum Disorder. Unfortunately as she was 14 weeks premature… we believed her symptoms were a result of her pre maturity…. as it turned out they were not and we did not get her the help she needed early enough to make a significant difference in her life… Hopefully the following will help you or move you to at least have your child evaluated early in life and a follow up later…
Aspergers is a form of Autism. People with Aspergers syndrome are on the higher end of the spectrum. They usually have normal language skills. Their main problem is dealing with people socially. Usually these problems are first noticed when a child begins school. The child can have all the signs of Aspergers, or only a few. Here are some of the common signs of Aspergers syndrome.
1. Have a hard time talking to other kids. Kids with Aspergers syndrome have a hard time going up to someone and starting a conversation.
2. Speak in words that are very advanced for their age. The Asperger’s child may use words that adults would use.
3. Have trouble understanding when someone is joking, or being sarcastic. Children with Aspergers have a hard time understanding tones of people’s voices. They tend to take everything said seriously.
4. Have very limited interests. A child with Aspergers syndrome may only want to focus on one thing. They may take a liking to puzzles, and only want to do puzzles all the time. They will often learn everything they can about one subject. That will be all they focus on.
5. Have a hard time with changes in their routine. This can be hard for a child starting school. They had a routine at home and now that is being changed. The same thing can happen during breaks during the school year. This is a common problem of Autistic children.
6. Talking a lot. Children with Aspergers usually talk a lot. They often say whatever they are thinking whether it is appropriate or not. Most of the conversations they have are one sided. While it looks like the child is talking to you, they are really talking at you.
7. Problems making friends. Kids with Aspergers have trouble making friends due to their inability to relate to the other children. They sometimes try to hard to make friends and scare the other kids away.
8. No eye contact. Children with Aspergers usually will not look you in the eye when speaking. This is another common trait of an Autistic child.
9. Using repetitive movements. This can be a movement like spinning around, or bouncing back and forth while sitting. These movements are calming to the Aspergers child.
10. Problems with speaking. The Aspergers child may speak really fast. They usually do not stop to see if the person they are talking to is paying attention. Their tone of voice is flat and does not change to show emotions.
11. Problems with movement. Children with Aspergers often have trouble with their coordination skills. They may always be tripping or stumbling over their own feet. They may take a long time to learn how to ride a bike.
Asperger children have the most positive outcome on the Autism spectrum. They have high intelligence and language skills. They can often be taught the social skills they need to get by. If you notice any of these signs in your child mention them to the doctor.
It is difficult sometimes to accept this diagnoses… and even then you will want to blame someone… but there is NO blame to be had for anyone.. it simply is…. My daughters mother basically burnt out trying to home school this child when the mother thought the child was falling behind… the overwhelming task of that caused the mother to suffer her own emotional trauma…. and as such another parent secumbs to their child’s disability … such sadness cannot be told so simply in words.. for when ANY child loses a parent.. everyone loses…. the toll on all parents is real and it is sometimes just too much to continue to be a responsible parent 24/7/365… there has to be a system in place to provide respite for each parent to rest and revive before going back to the daunting task of the continuing care of that child…. hopefully there will be better systems in the future for all of us…
And a last note: My daughters mother had to stop … it was NOT her fault.. it was the stress of the situation…. she should not be blamed for this…. it is not a task everybody can handle even when you live your children like she did…. but there are times a parent just needs to stop because they will cause more harm than good despite good intentions… this is a grueling and difficult task that is never ever easy on anyone in the family. So I ask you be a bit considerate when some parents have to leave the situation…. as it really does become a situation of survival. If I can forgive my daughters mother for this and understand her reasons.. then those who have never experienced such physical, mental and emotional drain should not condemn her either… Thank you!