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July 30, 2015

Does the USA have a “Fiat Currency”

Filed under: Uncategorized — Mr. Craig @ 12:13 am

Rational economy.

We need to fix our currency. We use debt based currency now, because we can never run out of debt. However that causes the monopoly game mentality. So does Gold, or wheat based currency. BitCoin is another debt based currency with the same problems.

A successful economy will serve the entire population it affects. Leaving no individual willing to task in poverty, and never limiting the most productive individual in wealth accumulation.

The only commodity that can properly be used as currency is labor, human labor.

A tree in the forest is worth nothing to an economy, without a human working to cut it, transporting it, milling it, distributing it and selling it. Gold in the ground is worth nothing to an economy unless human labor works it in some fashion. Wheat has no value unless human labor works it.

How can human labor be used as currency?

By defining the base unit of currency as the value of the minimum value of one hour of labor. Then we define the minimum value of one hour of human labor as that which can purchase the goods and services required for reasonable existence of one individual with a single dependent for four hours.

With that currency system in place, every individual willing to work at ANY task can never be forced to live in poverty. Nor can any highly productive individual be limited to that minimum. A highly productive individual is simply worth more, and can become wealthy, however their wealth can never come at the expense of the least productive.

Note that I do not advocate handouts to lazy or criminal individuals, work is expected, of SOME sort, whether that is sweeping streets or reading to children.

As long as we accept a currency based on the zero sum equation, there will be rich people, who will accumulate wealth that is no longer available to the poor. Rich become richer, and the poor become more poor. That is a fact, and it can be proven. If we use a labor based currency, the rich can become as rich as they wish, however the value of the minimum labor can never be sold at a price the poor cannot afford. Gold, wheat, BitCoin, can always, and will always be sold at prices that the rich can afford, and above what the poor can afford.

 Fiat Currency, evil?

Fiat currency is convenient, because when it is issued, it becomes real. An economy based on fiat currency, or debt, can never run out of currency.

Unlike currency backed by commodity, such as gold, silver or even wheat, the amount of that commodity is finite, and if more currency is required to support an economy, the only way to get more currency is to devalue it. A gold note worth one gram of gold, is great.

Unless the economy needs more notes and every note in circulation is backed by every gram of gold that exists. There is no more gold, it is all being used to value the notes in existence. The only way to issue more notes is to devalue the note.

There is another problem with commodity backed currency, and that is the value of the commodity is determined by the market, NOT the issuer of the note.

Watch what happens to a fiat currency:

I, (acting as a government), create a currency, called a drang. I issue that currency. I create, 10 million drang. At this moment, the drang has no value. None, whatsoever. I loan that 10 million drang to a bank, that I own at zero percent interest. If my bank, immediately repays the loan to me, the drang never has any value. It was an exercise in silliness.

However, if the bank loans that currency to the public, then the market begins to determine the value.

So, some guy needs a job, and offers to mow the lawn of my bank for 10 drang. There was no loan, there was a trade, and the value of the drang is immediately established, again, by the market. One drang has leaped in value, from zero to one tenth of labor to mow that lawn.

Now, that guy wants to mow more lawns, and he has used all the gas he had, so he goes to the gas station and offers one drang for one gallon of gas, if the gas station accepts that trade, then the market has now determined that a drang is worth one gallon of gas.

The guy goes around offering to mow lawns and expects to be paid in drang. If anyone wants to have this guy mow his lawn, they have two choices, they can borrow drang from my bank, OR they can offer goods or services in trade to my bank for drang.

If they borrow, they are now borrowing the notes at the value that the market determined, by the lawn mower, and the gas station. If they trade for drang, they are participating in the value negotiation of the notes.

Eventually, as the notes are traded and loaned, the market has determined a fairly solid and confident value for the drang, in terms of the goods and services available and desired in the economy.

As business grows, the economy may need more currency to support the growth.

Now, I, as the government, issue another 10 million drang, and again, loan that to my bank at no interest.

Business can now borrow more money, the economy grows, people can buy more and better products, and people are happy.

We are now going to consider those businesses that have succeeded.

A business creates value, by producing a product or service for sale, at a profit. The owner of that business, accumulates that profit as wealth. The business pays for the material, and labor, and the loan of currency that was invested to startup and taxes.

Once those payments are made, whatever is left over is pocketed by the business owner. That business takes steps to maximize profits, it will cut costs and increase price as required to maximize profits.

As the economy grows, the number of successful businesses increases, the number of wealthy people increases.

Note that there are still people who are not wealthy, and some are poor. The business, cuts costs, and labor is certainly a cost, and in the effort to maximize profits, may well reduce the pay of labor, or reduce their labor force.

Recall that a gallon of gas, was originally valued at one drang. As the relative value of commodities go in our current market, a loaf of bread is worth about one half-gallon of gas. Or half of a drang.

The baker, as a business owner wants to maximize profits. The cost of materials and labor are fairly static, it would be very difficult to pay less, and the only factor the baker can easily control is the price of his product.

When we look at how business maximizes profit, we often hear about supply and demand. If we assume that is the ONLY factors involved, then the system looks fair and good. There is another factor involved in the profit maximizing equation, and that is the wealth of your customers.

That’s right. A wealthy person might be able to afford paying 50 drang for a loaf of bread. they might not like it, but they can afford it.

The baker knows this.

What the baker must do, is to determine how high of a price he can set for his bread, without having unsold product. If there are enough wealthy people who can afford to spend 50 drang per loaf, that all of his bread is sold every day, then THAT will be where he sets his price.

At that price for bread, the people who are not working cannot buy that bread, the people making 10 drang an hour cannot afford that bread, but why should the baker care? Why should the successful people care, if they can buy their bread, they have no reason to complain, or demand lower prices.

The market has rewarded the fast, smart, and hard-working lucky people with profits for success. However the reward for that success comes at the expense of those less fortunate, or greedy. It was the success of business which drove up the prices of base goods and services. It was the success of business that created poverty.

Now, could the success of business cause poverty if a commodity based currency were used instead? ABSOLUTELY!!!

It is NOT the currency that caused poverty, wealth inequity, it was the success and growth of business that causes poverty.

Don’t get angry and think that the success and growth of business is evil. It is NOT evil.

The capital market is good, it works very well for its purpose, which is rewarding hard work, intelligence, and drive. It creates innovation and improvements in our social and technological systems. It is GOOD. For doing its job.

What is NOT the job, or purpose of the capital market is providing support for people who are not hard-working, intelligent or driven. NOR is it reasonable to expect the market to provide that support by imposing taxes on business. Those people who are successful should be allowed to keep their entire reward for their efforts. Not punished for the failures of others to succeed in the market.

You may be confused. I have asserted that fiat currency allows uncontrolled wealth accumulation, and that wealth accumulation, by the equation that is used for profit maximizing, causes poverty, which is bad. Yet I maintain that the market is good. What the hell am I talking about???

I am talking about the reality of the capital market. Without judgement, it works well for its purpose, and I am also talking about the reality that the market cannot, reasonably, be expected to even consider, much less support the poverty it creates. However that may seem harsh, it is simply true.

I have also asserted that it is NOT the fiat currency which causes poverty. The same business growth and wealth inequity occurs when a commodity based currency is used.

Historical evidence supports this, poverty and wealth inequity has existed throughout human history, regardless of currency used.

Is there a solution? Yes. Let me be clear, gold is NOT the answer!

I would like to revisit the moment when the person offered to mow the bank lawn for 10 drang. What the trade involved was a currency, for labor.

Then some time later, the value of human labor was traded for a commodity using the drang note as an instrument of negotiation.

It was the value of human labor that provided the original value of the currency, and if that value had been set, and defined as the value of currency, then the market could not have reset or negotiated that value. THAT, right there, is the KEY to the solution.

The key is to value currency, by human labor, and then to define that value as being able to purchase some base commodities.

It may seem that I have just suggested to back currency by commodity, but I have not. I have said that we can value the currency as human labor.

Let us just for a moment, assume that a drang is worth one hour of labor. Don’t get all butt hurt and start arguing. follow along and watch the solution work.

Now, if we define the value of a drang also, as being able to purchase all of the goods and services to support a human with one dependent for four hours.

What I have just done, is defined the MINIMUM value of human labor, to be the traded, using this currency, for the goods and services to support a human for eight hours. That does not mean free TV and internet. That does not mean Armani suits and caviar on the veranda of a Georgia mansion.

That means food, water and power, clothing and health care, education, transportation and a job.

What job? The jobs available to provide those goods and services needed by the workers doing those jobs. That is it. No luxury goods and services. People need food, so there are jobs to grow and serve food. People need power, so there are jobs to provide power.

What this system is, is a SOCIAL economy, not a capital economy. It provides ONLY the goods and services that people need to live. NOTHING else.

If a person wants to drive a Cadillac, or Maserati, they need to find a job in the capital economy.

The only wage paid in this social economy is one drang per hour. No exceptions, no one makes more, no one makes less. Every person that participates in the social economy is assured a job, and a wage above poverty. There are jobs that need to be done, and people who are willing to work. No one requires any profit. No profit is generated and the value of the currency, the drang is absolutely stable and solid. It cannot be devalued, it cannot be deflated.

Now, the people who participate in the social economy are doing so by voluntary decision. The capital market still exists, and is available to anyone who wants to participate in THAT economy. A welder in the social economy, might decide to hire out a few hours a week to a business doing machine work. That welder is now straddling both economies, and may decide at some time, to leave the social economy entirely, and make a profit in the capital market. Do not complain that the welder can only earn one drang per hour, because that is not true. The social economy pays one drang per hour, but the market pays whatever the market pays. that welder might negotiate a wage with that business for 25 drang per hour.

Straddling and migrating to the capital market should be encouraged.

Wait. Where does the capital market get its currency? How does the capital economy get drang?

The same way it gets currency NOW, it borrows currency, from the social economy. The “bank”.

The market can borrow as much as they want to risk. The market can now grow, using the same financial rules they use now, and the success of the market, providing LUXURY goods and services cannot in any way affect the value of the currency.

The key is to use currency based on, backed by human labor. The lock is to value human labor at a MINIMUM that assures a worker will not live in poverty.

Now the market can grow and succeed, and NOT be limited by being required, by taxation to support the people who fail to succeed in the market.

The people who are not, for whatever reason able to succeed in the market are fully supported by the social economy and are not a burden on the market.

Living in the social economy is not a miserable existence. Most of the work, is mundane and not very challenging or difficult. The life is not extravagant, or plush, but is well above poverty. Straddling can be used to improve life, without risking total failure in the market, allowing people who wish to, an opportunity to gain some luxury goods and services, and to move entirely to the capital market.

Those who do participate fully and entirely in the market have a social net available. No matter how bad the failure in the market might be, the social economy never allows a person willing to perform some labor to fail utterly.

A social economy is NOT evil either. Think about it.

July 29, 2015

“Today’s Pigskin” Article on Philadelphia Eagles Lacks Journalistic Integrity.

I am not going to pull any tricks that would be unethical . The italicized below in green is my response left on a site called Today’s Pigskin on an article that basically said Chip Kelly of the Philadelphia Eagles would fail. I was appalled by the article / not because they criticized Chip Kelly… but in the way it was done and with essentially FALSE information and what amounted to a seriously flawed op/ed piece. But the reason I am posting my response is more because this exact same response was left in the comment section of the article and was censored.

I have so informed the site and the author I would post this. I have also attached at the bottom of this response the article in its entirety. I am not a commercial site, I make no money from this blog or this post, and I am posting it along with the link because it is germane to my argument of censorship being an evil thing when a (MY) comment is not vulgar but in this case called out the author for their behaviour and flaws in both facts and assumptions. They are aware I am putting them on blast for their behavior. I am not sure if they are a commercial site or not… but what they have done is not worthy of payment if this is how they practice journalism. I find their behaviour not only reprehensible but severely lacking in journalistic integrity and unable to take personal responsibility for a seriously flawed article. My opinions are just that  …. MINE!!!

What are you 16.. what kind of BS article is this.. YOU KNOW Chip Kelly will fail… LMAO.. yea right. Your suppositions are unreasonable. Your conclusions are childish and worthy of a Junior HS student maybe even middle school. Your logic is fatally flawed in so many ways I would make a Ph.D. Thesis out of it..

I will however give you a small glimpse in adult reasoning. I will choose the easiest (sc).. CULTURE. Obviously you cannot comprehend the true meaning of this term or you would not have written such drivel. But let me give you a short layman’s overview. In Chip Kelly’s system Culture is paramount. While culture is multidimensional .. from veterans mentoring rookies destined to one day take the Veterans job. To after hours work by squads (or called rooms), Or willing to block more than catch because it helps the TEAM. There are many, many more components to this but if you listen to Chip Kelly he CHOSES players not just on certain measurables but also on as Chip Kelly has said: ‘I want players who love football, not what football gets them’

When all these components are taken as a whole then you see what Aristotle said about the sum of its parts: “The Whole is greater than the sum of its parts” or translated into the TEAM .. it means that the TEAM is greater than the individual abilities of each of its players and the Synergy these players are already displaying cannot be found in any other NFL team today. The unselfish Team first mentality makes them better .

In your explanation you say that the sum of its parts will destroy the whole… and hence you predict (wrongly) that Chip Kelly will fail. THAT is illogical given the type of players he has recruited and retained and that every one there now has bought into this philosophy and team first philosophy of the Eagles.

This other CRAP is the constant exaggeration of the chances of Bradford injuring his ACL.. those stats you quote.. well you inflated them even more than the last idiot who misquoted them. your writing is lacking in journalistic integrity when you make up facts to support your fantasy and make a conclusion or wore a prediction based upon falsely reported “facts” and incongruent conjecture…

HERE is the real info one Bradford’s ACL:

The Doctors.. including Dr Andrews who did the surgery said that ANY NFL Player that goes on the field has a 10 – 12 % chance of Knee injury… but that Bradford’s ACL was thickened as well as widened during surgery and his chances are roughly 60% LESS than the average NFL Player ..

Dr James L. Casey: ” The odds of re-injuring the same knee are relatively low. According to Carey, studies have shown that the probability of re-tearing a reconstructed ACL is about three to six percent. (Those studies were on the general population, not just football players.But they line up with other findings that suggest the chance of a recurrent injury to the same knee amongst NFL players within two years is about five to six percent.) Meanwhile, the probability of tearing the other knee — or the “native ACL” — is higher, around nine to 12 percent.”

Dr. James L. Carey, Director of the Penn Center for Advanced Cartilage Repair and Assistant Professor of Orthopaedic Surgery at the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania

http://boards.philadelphiaeagl…

You should be ashamed of yourself for writing such a bad article.

The above is the exact copy of the response to the article.

Below is the original article along with photos and byline as it appeared in the Today’s Pigskin  It should be noted I did not leave out the Photo Credits as they were never in the article. This article is for reference only to my comment above and for the reasons listed in the first 2 paragraphs of this post.

As a side note.. I do not do this on any regular basis and cannot remember any time before today having done this. 

https://www.todayspigskin.com/nfc-today/nfc-east/philadelphia-eagles/the-philadelphia-eagles-took-risks-that-will-backfire/

The Philadelphia Eagles took risks that will backfire

by Billy Nayden

When Chip Kelly decided to leave his head coaching job with the Oregon Ducks, he did so knowing there would be great risk. Not only was Kelly headed to a new league, but he was on his way to an NFL job where even the best college coaches had failed before.

Nonetheless, he was able to resurrect the Philadelphia Eagles and take them from a team at the bottom of the division to a team at the top. While that achievement helped gain Chip Kelly a bit of credibility with the volatile Philly fan base, ultimately he flatlined last year and now must face the most pressure he’s seen in his tenure. Thus, Chip Kelly turned to the only strategy he really knows: he’s took some risks.

As it always does in the NFL, the risks for the Eagles start at the quarterback position where Kelly jettisoned current starter Nick Foles in exchange for former top draft pick Sam Bradford. While Bradford was highly regarded out of college, his injury history puts him in a sideline jacket more often than it did in shoulder pads. While no Eagles fan will tell you Nick Foles is a superstar, he was certainly a solid quarterback, and definitely more reliable than Sam Bradford, who appears to be made of glass.

Trading LeSean McCoy for an injured Kiko Alonso was a risky move for the Philadelphia Eagles.

Kelly also felt the need to risk his star player in hopes of rebuilding his defense, so he dealt Pennsylvania native LeSean McCoy for former Oregon Duck Kiko Alonso. While the running back has lost importance in recent years in the NFL, it seemed strange for Kelly to trade a healthy star like McCoy for a young linebacker like Alonso who is just coming off ACL surgery. While Kiko Alonso has All-Pro talent, losing just a step can kill your career as an NFL linebacker, and Alonso has yet to prove that he can rebound to the level he showed in his rookie season. However, Chip Kelly took the risk.

Finally, in order to replace McCoy, Chip Kelly went out and signed last year’s league-leading rusher DeMarco Murray. While Murray had a very good season last year with the Dallas Cowboys, any Philly fan who thinks he will replicate it with the Eagles should take a better look at DeMarco Murray’s history. 2014 was the first season of his career where he was completely healthy, and he put up numbers behind arguably the best offensive line in the league. However, this should be unsurprising, because, as we know, Chip Kelly likes to take risks.

While it’s easy to question these moves, it’s not like Chip Kelly doesn’t have a plan. Just a few days ago he told reporters at the Eagles’ camp that Sam Bradford only has a 15 to 20 percent chance of reinjuring his ACL. He worked with Kiko Alonso for four years in college. He will use DeMarco Murray in a run heavy system that plays to his strengths. Trust me, there’s plenty of reason to believe that Chip Kelly will be able to have incredible success on the field this year with the Philadelphia Eagles.

However, on that same note, in order for the Eagles to be as successful as Chip Kelly imagines, they need a lot of things to break in their favor. For starters, they’re relying on a trio of Sam Bradford, DeMarco Murray and Kiko Alonso to all stay healthy, which seems extremely unlikely. Secondly, they’re relying on those players to not only stay healthy, but perform at Pro Bowl levels. However, the most ridiculous thing is they’re expecting those three guys to step up as leaders in a locker room that is brand new to them. That is exactly where Chip Kelly’s risky behavior is going to come back to bite the Eagles, and when that happens, it won’t be pretty.

June 13, 2015

35 Signs You’re Dating A Boy, Not A Man

Filed under: Uncategorized — Mr. Craig @ 5:37 pm
The official beginning of adulthood has always been on a sliding scale. The process starts at 18, when you’re allowed to vote, die for your country and be tried as an adult, but I think most of us can agree that we still have a lot of growing up to do at that age. The next step is 21, and while in the “Mad Men” era that may have been the age when all men were expected to put childish things away, get married and be on their way to starting a career, that’s no longer the case. Hell, it’s arguable that being able to legally buy beer actually causes a step down in maturity for a lot of us.

I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. The uninterrupted path of school to marriage to family to career has led directly to the land of the mid-life crisis for previous generations. Nowadays, actual adulthood seems to begin around 30. We use our 20s to get all our partying and hookups out of our system — good for us.

The problem with this prolonged adolescence, however, is that some people forget that they eventually do have to take some responsibility for their lives and become a useful member of society. And since women tend to mature faster than men, it’s easy to understand the fairer sex’s frustrations about their dating options. By 30, family-oriented women are getting antsy about finding a guy to settle down with (The Self Imposed Biological Clock… tick-tock and all that), but a lot of the guys their age aren’t on the same page. Commitment and Loyalty  are extremely rare in this millennium.

So this one’s for the ladies, but the dudes should pay attention, too. What follows is a list of ways you can tell a man isn’t ready for the real world. But just because he may exhibit some, or even all, of these symptoms, it doesn’t mean he’s incapable of growing up. It just means he’s not there yet. Try giving him a kick in the ass before you kick him to the curb.

1. He Plays Games

I’m not talking about video games. As long as it’s not interfering with his life, let the guy play. No, I’m talking about the kind of games when he’s fucking with your mind. Basically, he hasn’t learned the difference between dating and being in a grown-up relationship. Call him out on it. Maybe he’ll stop.

2. He Only Cares About Himself

He has no interest in your hopes and dreams unless they revolve around him; he only cares that his needs are being met. An actual adult would have already figured out he’s not the center of the goddamn universe.

3. He Lives Only In The Moment

He’s learned nothing from the past and has no plans for the future. This can be an endearing quality, but it will get frustrating if you’re trying to plan a life with someone incapable of commitment.

4. He Lives With His Parents

Yeah, no shit, right? Still, when we’re drawn to people, we tend to make excuses for their faults. But this is the reddest of red flags. How can you expect to have an adult relationship with someone who’s never left the nest?

5. He Expects You To Be His Mom

If he thinks being in a relationship means he never has to cook, do his laundry or clean up after himself (or needs you to at least remind him to do those things), you’re in pretty warped territory. Let him know you’re more than a maid he gets to bang.

6. He Fades Into The Background When He’s Out Of His Element

Even though he’s the life of the party when he’s around his buddies, he clams up at work functions or “adult” dinner parties. He either feels inferior or he’s uninterested in expanding his social circle. Either way, he’s got a lot of growing up to do.

7. He’s Selfish In Bed

He thinks sex is only about getting him off. Whether he’s skipping the foreplay or racing to the finish line, he hasn’t learned that relationship sex is about teamwork.

8. He Doesn’t Remember Any Plans He Doesn’t Make Himself

Guys don’t always like having to go to your sorority sister’s wedding or your family reunion, but if you’ve told him about it, he should have marked his calendar. If he acts surprised when the day arrives, this is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, which is a major symptom of immaturity.

9. He Can’t Hold Down A Job

I’m not saying he has to have his whole career planned out, but if he blows off work when he doesn’t feel like going, quits or gets fired because he’s too lazy or the job is too boring, this guy still doesn’t know life isn’t always about doing whatever he wants to do all the time.

10. He Doesn’t Stand Up For You

If he doesn’t have your back when you get into a confrontation (even if he doesn’t agree with you), he either doesn’t give a shit about you or he’s a coward. Either way, he’s not a man.

11. He Never Takes Blame

Nothing’s ever his fault, is it? A man doesn’t worry about who’s at fault — it doesn’t matter. There’s nothing productive about assigning or arguing about blame. If something’s wrong, just fix it.

12. He Tries To “Win” Arguments With You

It’s been said many times that arguing in relationships is a good thing — it proves you’re both invested. But arguments are about finding middle ground, not about coming out on top. And a grown-up man knows there’s no way to win an argument with a woman, anyway.

13. He Doesn’t Take Care Of You

And I don’t mean financially. You’re an independent, 21st-century woman — you don’t need a man to pay your bills. But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on.

14. He’s Passive-Aggressive

Instead of being upfront and honest with you when you’ve pissed him off or hurt his feelings, he just shuts down or finds subtle ways to make your life difficult. Screw that guy. He’s a big baby.

15. He Worries Too Much About What Other People Think

A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. Confidence (not arrogance) comes with maturity.

16. He’s Rebellious For No Reason

No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here. If this guy intentionally does the opposite of what’s expected from him just for the sake of being contrarian, that’s a sign of insecurity, immaturity or douche-baggery.

17. He’s Not Assertive

Speaking of confidence, a grown-up man isn’t afraid to go after what he wants. If this guy can’t manage to get a drink at a crowded bar or he’s too timid to tell you he likes a finger up his ass during sex, he’s never going to amount to anything.

18. He Refuses To Compromise

This guy has an unrealistic and outdated idea of what it means to be a man. He thinks that unless everything is done on his terms, he’ll be perceived as weak-willed. Grown-ups know life is full of compromises.

19. He Can’t Fix Anything

Maybe it’s an old gender role, but men are expected to be reasonably handy. He needs to know how to change a tire, mount a towel rack or at the very least, put together an IKEA bookshelf without bursting into tears.

20. He Gets Wasted Too Often

I’m all for going out and getting blasted every once in a while, but after college, it shouldn’t be the whole point of every night out. Cleaning up his puke and dealing with his morning-after hangovers is going to get old fast.

21. He Gives Up Too Easily

The older you get, the harder things become to accomplish. If he throws in the towel every time he meets a little bit of resistance, he’s still too wet behind the ears.

22. He Goes MIA

In today’s world, there are very few reasons to be completely unreachable for any length of time. If he can’t send you a simple text just to let you know he’s not dead or in jail, odds are he’s fucking with your head.

23. He Refuses To Make A Decision

When you ask a guy where he wants to go for dinner and he says something like, “I don’t care,” or “Wherever you want,” it’s usually true. But the difference between a man and a boy is that the man knows you hate that kind of shit and makes a suggestion anyway.

24. He’s A Dick

If this guy is rude to waiters or won’t play nice with your friends, he’s either playing the bad boy or he really is one. And while women are sometimes attracted to bad boys, they’re almost never attracted to bad men. How he treats others is ultimately how he will treat you.

25. He Can’t Handle Conflict

Running away from or avoiding problems is one of the most childish things a guy can do. A man deals with shit, even if it means getting punched in the face by some douche at the bar or getting screamed at by your girlfriend. Passive aggressive its the worst. when problems are not discussed they only fester to the point that the entire relationship is a disaster because communications failed to happen. Children have temper tantrums adults deal with issues as they arise and find a compromise or workable solution.

26. He Intentionally Makes You Jealous

This is another sign of insecurity, which isn’t the most masculine of qualities. For whatever reason, he wants you to believe he has other options besides you and he makes sure you know about them. A little bit of jealousy is like salt….. a little can enhance the meal but in excess it becomes inedible.Chances are he is trying to control you by making you jealous.

27. He Won’t Open Up To You

Some guys can be kind of emotionally closed off, and that shouldn’t be such a big deal. But if he flat-out refuses to open up to you about anything, it means he’s afraid of getting hurt, which makes him a pussy.

28. Sex Is His Solution To Any Problem

Make-up sex is awesome, but it only really counts if the issue is resolved beforehand. Otherwise it’s just a distraction that temporarily tables the problem and allows it to get worse. Eventually one party or the other is going to feel used or worse abused.

29. He’s Not Interested In Self-Improvement

And I don’t mean self-help. I’m talking about learning new skills, becoming more invested in current affairs, reading more… that sort of thing. If he thought he was finished gaining any kind of knowledge when he graduated from school, he’s still got a lot to learn.

30. He Manipulates You

Knowing how to manipulate people into doing what you want is actually a pretty good skill to have. But using it in a relationship is pretty rotten. eliciting guilt is the actions of a child not a man and should be a deal breaker.

31. He’s Not Willing To Get His Hands Dirty

Sometimes a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do, and that isn’t always pretty. If this guy won’t break any eggs, you’re never going to get an omelet out of him. Cleaning and straightening a house is for both parties. Otherwise you are in line to be his mother not his lover. It is a partnership not a master/slave B/D affair.

32. He’s Not Reliable

This one’s just common sense. If you can’t count on him to be there when you need him, he’s no kind of man you want in your life. Apply the three strikes rule here.

33. The Thing He Likes Most About You Is Your Looks

Obviously, physical attraction is important, but if you’ve been together awhile and your hotness is still your number one draw, this is a relationship with little hope for success. A man needs to connect with his partner on numerous levels. A boy just wants to bang a hot chick. A Man will appreciate your beauty but will understand that without an intellect of some kind then there is nothing to build on. To be quite blunt “Physical Beauty” fades while intellect can and should continue to evolve.

34. He’s Constantly Testing You

This is another annoying thing that immature guys do. Instead of just telling you what he wants and expects out of a relationship, he contrives situations to try and find out for himself. But these tests are stacked in his favor and you can “fail” them without even knowing you were being tested in the first place.

35. He’s An Anchor

Some guys just latch onto you and drag you down. If you’re not living up to your potential and he’s the reason why, cut the rope and sail off on your own. If he is not the wind beneath your wings or the breeze that fills your sails, then you are doomed to settling for something that is at best temporary

 

June 7, 2015

How to Know if You’re Dating a Girl or a Woman

Filed under: Uncategorized — Mr. Craig @ 1:46 am

Here are 11 Differences Between How Girls Behave and Women Behave

Recently, I read a post on “The 11 Difference Between Dating a Boy vs a Man“. The post can have the genders swapped and most points would still apply. However, we can’t deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women – from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl, vs a woman. Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.

A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding vs reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

8. A girl does not respect her body.  She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah

9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available…

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.

Bonus: A woman will engage you in substantive discourse. A Girl will talk about superficial things. A women enjoys the company of a man as equals. A girl has a difficult time having adult conversations with a man and prefers boys to play with in insignificant ways . 

June 6, 2015

I Am So Much More Than A Unicorn

Unicorn ponies

This is an odd title I have used for many people, but I was perplexed when a woman once said that her “Unicorn” was a man who is “good in bed and loyal”. Seems pretty weak requirements for a Unicorn to me. But let me explain.  (Note: the beginning paragraphs may seem a but clinical at first but it gets better) 

Some men (actually many men), think being good in bed is a matter of technique or worse lasting a long, long time. this is simply NOT correct. Agreed that lasting more than 5 minutes is important, but how long is a matter of debate. Men seem to ignore that women can not create lubrication for hours on end.

Additionally vaginal orgasms are less common than most men imagine or want to believe. The sensation of being filled or penetrated is pleasurable for most women but most orgasms are clitoral and not vaginal. As to that there is a “depth ” to a woman’s vaginal canal that is a man goes to far will end up bruising her cervix, thus making “Length” a non factor after so many “Inches” Many women also would prefer more girth to more length. In reality is everyone must deal with the size they have which is most likely sufficient for the purposes at hand.

What is often left out is that most women enjoy the best orgasms  via Oral and Digitally (meaning fingers) stimulation of the outer portion of the vagina and the clitoris. This is probably the area that “Technique” matters the most. But that “technique”  is individual to each and every woman who will respond differently.  The most important thing is to be aware of the response you get from the woman you are with and know what is making it better for her.. and to vary the pace and rhythm accordingly….. meaning, don’t spend 15 minutes only on the clitoris as it will eventually case discomfort or even pain.

Most women are not comfortable in the beginning in telling you what to do to make them happy this way. You need to be aware not only of verbal cues (such as a moan or a gasps) but in facial cues and body movements as even the grabbing of sheets or your head or ears etc. Maybe she won’t verbally guide you but she will respond in such ways that you will be able to tailor your “technique” to her unique body responses.  

Note: during Oral sex it is a good idea to not forget the perineum which is the piece of skin between the anus and the genitals. it is very sensitive and stimulated can bake a more enjoyable encounter. (The surface between the vaginal orifice and the anus is called the perineum)

Penetration is not taboo.. it is good… but also remember EVERY woman is built slightly differently down there. Some have a higher vagina where the clitoris is closer to the pubic bone and some have a lower one under their torso. Depending on where hers is, can also give you a good indication if missionary or doggy is a better position… attempting to make clitoral contact during intercourse increases the changes of an orgasm during this time and sometimes scissoring can be more effective on making that contact.

There are other non vaginal areas that can also produce an orgasm in a woman. Sometimes nipple stimulation or neck (just do not leave a Hickey) and the area between the vagina and the thigh can also be stimulated to produce orgasms. As I have said EVERY WOMAN IF DIFFERENT, so the more time you spend exploring her body the more you will learn and the better lover you will be for her. Every woman has different erogenous zones on her body…. I will not get into them as some are taboo for some people,  but they all need to be explored over time…  NEVER force them each woman will and will respond to different men and their abilities or “technique”, even on separate occasions. Consider her body the undiscovered territory that needs to be explored each time you can spend that time together …. you will both be rewarded for it in the long run. 

The real key is the exploration of her body. slow and gently, playful and intense. Various stimulation to the same places can produce different results. Take your time. Find your way around her body…  she may even be surprised at what you do that turns her on even more…. but it is not automatic…. it takes time and effort, but that effort can be very pleasurable for both of you if you allow it to develop over time… Intimacy only gets better as trust is built. 

It is not difficult to be a good lover in bed IF you pay attention to her responses and what is making her happy. If this is what makes a Unicorn, then every real man should be a Unicorn at lest in this area. 

NEXT… Loyalty. This is a 50/50 deal. Too often women chose the wrong man.. or should I say BOY… If you are interested in a player then know he is not going to be Loyal. He cannot be satisfied with one woman .. and that is usually because he lacks self-confidence.. even if he exudes it to others inside he is usually insecure and needs the conquest to feel like a successful man. Thinking you can change him.. or you are the answer to his needs is just plain foolish. Don;t comp[lain about him hooking up with someone else if you already knew his reputation. The story of the snake who bit the woman who saved him is classic.. as she was dying she asked the snake why he bit her and the snake replied ” But you know I was a Sake when yo took me in.” 

The problem is woman don’t think the guy who is interested in her is good enough if he does not have certain Physical or other so-called “Qualities” that have nothing to do with a  man who can provide a real and serious relationship where she is the most important to him and that can bring true happiness. I get tired of woman who ignore the good guys because they are to old , too shot, too tall, too skinny, too fat, Not the right “race” or religion, not hipster enough or lack fame or notoriety or a dozen more things that are usually indicative of a BOY who will never be Loyal.  Until you are a woman who deserves a man you will always choose BOYS who will hurt you. Of course you wont get that second date if you went for the wrong guy in the first place. 

Loyalty is the quality of a MAN.. so if you are not finding it in your “Unicorn” then you are not picking MEN you are confused by boys. 

For you men: I know the saying.. you want a “lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets” If this seems to be your version of a Unicorn..  Then you have it WRONG!  

Those who love the physical beauty of a woman does not deserve that woman unless they actually ask her to spend a week with no makeup and grungy clothes and no sex. If you are a woman who is reading this you understand what I mean. When those false eyelashes come off, the blemishes on your skin are apparent without makeup, where jewelry and sexy clothes and great kicks are not there the only think left is your bear soul.. your personality, your thoughts ideas and the two of you to know each other as  human beings and not physical exteriors.

When this barrier is crossed it will either end the intrigue or will build an intimacy between that man and woman that becomes real .. Mutual Respect and LOYALTY then has a basis to build upon and if the minds have entwined then there is less of a chance to lose each other than if only superficial bodies entwine. the foundation of a real relationship can then be used to build something real and significant. 

Women need to be appreciated. not for anything in particular as each woman brings something different to the table.. Some can cook.. some cant and wont. Some love fashion and the rare ones can dress to the nines and later get their grunge on to do yard work or pain the house/apartment. Lady in the streets is more of an attitude than of appearance. Manners, etiquette and the level of intelligence should never be ignored but varying degrees of these can find an emphasis or a lack of communal values that may be deal breakers, Hence that 1 week of only yourselves is a key ingredient to finding that ability to bond or not.  do NOT force it. if it is there you will know if not your doubt should be a clear indication that you are not meant to be together not matter how much your hormones want to be. remember you are no longer children playing you are looking for something substantial and real. Passion can develop and last longer than temporary sexual urges can be satisfied. When sex is over then what do you do together? . 

Supporting your woman (and that can or cannot be financially) in her goals and desires for her future is critical for HER happiness. While your goals can be different in some areas the level of support can never be diminished, IF you desire a “relationship”.  You will disagree, have various dissimilar opinions, but as long as there is mutual respect and an understanding that reasonable people can agree to disagree.. then you have the necessary ingredients for a mutually beneficial and satisfying relationship. Adults grow together children “smash it” for a while.

A true Unicorn is a gentleman, and a sexual partner that is responsive to YOUR individual need for sexual fulfillment and can tap into more than you ever knew you had, can make you feel like a woman anywhere and everywhere even on the toilet, can make you feel that you can talk about any thing and everything without fear of reprisal or disdain or being told your too emotional or must be on your menstrual cycle, can stimulate your mind and your spirit and who you know will be there when you fall to help you up and put you back on track that you want to pursue not on his version of where he thinks you should go. Someone who has patience and understanding and compassion and integrity who would walk away from you if it was best for you even if it would devastate him.  Self Sacrificing, and commit ed to your happiness… because he knows you are worth of that and so much more … an ultimately you will also feel the same for him and do the same for him one day because he gave to you everything to provide for your happiness. … A MAN who is truly a man inside and who is not tempted by the next pretty girl who comes by and knows you inside out and wants the entirety of you.

I am not speaking philosophically here. I have lived this life on both sides. I was a BOY for so long and when I became a MAN it was by my own actions. When my own family did not respect my wife, I chose my wife, because that is the way it should be (my father said that his wife was his wife for the rest of his life and that children leave the home) , When I see these reality shows when boys pretend to be men in their relationships expect their wives to be subjugated to their mother.. I do not understand how any woman could accept that. 

I went thought the “baptism” by fire in learning what I now understand to be what a real relationship should be… 2 people who SHARE a life and each living their own dreams for their future goals and yet able to support each other in their daily lives.

I find it ironic in some ways that I know so much now about life, love sex and relationships, but I am often dismissed or scoffed at because of other factors unrelated to what it takes to be that Unicorn women claim to look for. Experience and a level of maturity that makes for a relationship should be more important to physical characteristics of the MAN just as woman want to be judged by more than their bodies I also wish to be accepted for the man I am with my successes and failures and scars from learning out in the open and easy to see. 

Many people sleep walk though life. I have refused to do so. I have never stopped learning. Yet there are things I am behind on.. things that only fresh eyes and someone with new-found knowledge can share with me.

I bring the patience experience knowledge and understanding of a complicated world into any relationship. I know what it takes to make a commitment and make it work, what it is to support someone in their goals and desires while sharing a life together and what compromise is and most importantly not afraid of admitting I make mistakes and the wisdom to understand that when we cannot solve the problem we are facing that we are facing the wrong problem and working together to redefine that problem so we can find a solution that works for us both….  

I return I have long sought a WOMAN who is transitioning from girl to Woman  or who has crossed that threshold, one who has goals, desires, hopes ambitions, who has a social conscience, who understand or wants to understand the global society we live in, who is not a homebody but wants the adventure of life and what travel can bring into her own being and who is not satisfied in what she is but wants to be more and grow in her life.

A woman who not just wants a Unicorn in her life but who truly understands that a Unicorn is so much more than “good” in bed and loyal but is someone who supports he and enriches her life .

One day I hope that I will meet that woman. But I am not sure that she exists. That woman without the biases that so many woman carry … the false boundaries they establish as to what they say they want as to what they really want n their future. One day a woman will see my Unicorn value and will revel in what I bring. 

I have loved deeply in my life and I have lost much. But I have never stopped living or hoping or trying to be more than what I am today each and every day. It is only because of my past that I am what I am today and are the keys to a better tomorrow! Because I have lived so much means there is more to share than most people in the world could ever imagine. Of this I am sure! 

Post Note for Men:

Girls often spray some scent directly on them. A woman will choose a perfume as opposed to “Toilet Water” and will dab a bit on her writs and then rub both writs together and slightly up the inside of the forearm. She will then apply a very small about to her neck where it meets her shoulder and also the behind her lower earlobe. This is a very, very SMALL quantity. If she wished to be more intoxicating she will often have a “mister” and while in the bathroom will spray a light mist (a small amount) into the air in front of her and walk into that mist. It is acceptable and polite to compliment her on the perfume/scent she has used. Again, as in sex, a every woman’s chemistry will alter the scent of her perfume so indicating that it is delightful in some  way on her will make her feel more special . 

A Man who uses a GOOD cologne (AS with perfume it is more “oil” ) rubs a “small” amount into his hand and rubs his beard area and jaw line and then wipes off the remainder in the middle of his upper chest to get the minuscule excess moisture off his hands. The key is NOT to overpower but to have a subtle scent and the chest area can produce a little perspiration that will enhance the cologne at the right time. His nails need to be short (ask any woman why” clean, and filed with no “rough edges” and a bit of hand lotion to assure a smooth surface when touching or holding a woman. Scaly calluses can snag on certain fabrics and that is not good. and a fresh CLEAN and neat handkerchief is always a welcome article to have if your lady needs to dab at her eyes for whatever reason that they be .. shall we say  “watering”(My father told me this was one of the true signs of a gentleman.. he was right) 

I found your Unicorn

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