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February 2, 2012

One Man’s Story of Being Misdiagnosed With Autism

Filed under: Uncategorized — Mr. Craig @ 2:12 am

I Had Asperger Syndrome. Briefly.


Manchester, N.H.

FOR a brief, heady period in the history of autism spectrum diagnosis, in the late ’90s, I had Asperger syndrome.

There’s an educational video from that time, called “Understanding Asperger’s,” in which I appear. I am the affected 20-year-old in the wannabe-hipster vintage polo shirt talking about how keen his understanding of literature is and how misunderstood he was in fifth grade. The film was a research project directed by my mother, a psychology professor and Asperger specialist, and another expert in her department. It presents me as a young man living a full, meaningful life, despite his mental abnormality.

“Understanding Asperger’s” was no act of fraud. Both my mother and her colleague believed I met the diagnostic criteria laid out in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition. The manual, still the authoritative text for American therapists, hospitals and insurers, listed the symptoms exhibited by people with Asperger disorder, and, when I was 17, I was judged to fit the bill.

I exhibited a “qualified impairment in social interaction,” specifically “failure to develop peer relationships appropriate to developmental level” (I had few friends) and a “lack of spontaneous seeking to share enjoyment, interests, or achievements with other people” (I spent a lot of time by myself in my room reading novels and listening to music, and when I did hang out with other kids I often tried to speak like an E. M. Forster narrator, annoying them). I exhibited an “encompassing preoccupation with one or more stereotyped and restricted patterns of interest that is abnormal either in intensity or focus” (I memorized poems and spent a lot of time playing the guitar and writing terrible poems and novels).

The general idea with a psychological diagnosis is that it applies when the tendencies involved inhibit a person’s ability to experience a happy, normal life. And in my case, the tendencies seemed to do just that. My high school G.P.A. would have been higher if I had been less intensely focused on books and music. If I had been well-rounded enough to attain basic competence at a few sports, I wouldn’t have provoked rage and contempt in other kids during gym and recess.

The thing is, after college I moved to New York City and became a writer and met some people who shared my obsessions, and I ditched the Forsterian narrator thing, and then I wasn’t that awkward or isolated anymore. According to the diagnostic manual, Asperger syndrome is “a continuous and lifelong disorder,” but my symptoms had vanished.

Last year I sold a novel of the psychological-realism variety, which means that my job became to intuit the unverbalized meanings of social interactions and create fictional social encounters with interesting secret subtexts. By contrast, people with Asperger syndrome and other autism spectrum disorders usually struggle to pick up nonverbal social cues. They often prefer the kind of thinking involved in chess and math, activities at which I am almost as inept as I am at soccer.

The biggest single problem with the diagnostic criteria applied to me is this: You can be highly perceptive with regard to social interaction, as a child or adolescent, and still be a spectacular social failure. This is particularly true if you’re bad at sports or nervous or weird-looking.

As I came into my adult personality, it became clear to me and my mother that I didn’t have Asperger syndrome, and she apologized profusely for putting me in the video. For a long time, I sulked in her presence. I yelled at her sometimes, I am ashamed to report. And then I forgave her, after about seven years. Because my mother’s intentions were always noble. She wanted to educate parents and counselors about the disorder. She wanted to erase its stigma.

I wonder: If I had been born five years later and given the diagnosis at the more impressionable age of 12, what would have happened? I might never have tried to write about social interaction, having been told that I was hard-wired to find social interaction baffling.

The authors of the next edition of the diagnostic manual, the D.S.M.-5, are considering a narrower definition of the autism spectrum. This may reverse the drastic increase in Asperger diagnoses that has taken place over the last 10 to 15 years. Many prominent psychologists have reacted to this news with dismay. They protest that children and teenagers on the mild side of the autism spectrum will be denied the services they need if they’re unable to meet the new, more exclusive criteria.

But my experience can’t be unique. Under the rules in place today, any nerd, any withdrawn, bookish kid, can have Asperger syndrome.

The definition should be narrowed. I don’t want a kid with mild autism to go untreated. But I don’t want a school psychologist to give a clumsy, lonely teenager a description of his mind that isn’t true.



  1. Thank You


    Comment by II — July 11, 2012 @ 5:21 am

  2. Like Mr Nugent, I’ve been misdiagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. I’m nerdy and bookish. I have a very high IQ (whatever that means). I grew-up in a highly dysfunctional home. Both my parents have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. My brother has a history of prescription drug abuse, alcohol abuse, gambling and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He’s a shark in a business suit. I was the scapegoat, the “identified patient” in the family. I had minor health problems (I have mild dyslexia and a congenital neuro-optical problem, which means that I don’t have depth perception) that my parents and teachers played up. When my doctors gave my parents appropriate advise, they didn’t believe it. Instead, my parents choose to have a quack “treat” me. My treatment was costly, in time and money, boring and abusive. The quack advised me to participate in sports in which I had no talent for. My mother took the quack’s advise too literally, and pushed me to seriously train and compete in a sport I had absolutely no talent for. My mother was verbally abusive, calling me lots of nasty names and playing up my disability and playing down my talents (as a musician, artist and scholar). My father was a highly manipulative person. Both my parents are/were from highly dysfunctional homes. I was bullied at home, bullied at school. My parents choose to send me to substandard or inappropriate schools. I remember that, during one parent-teacher night, my maths teacher tried to convince my parents to send me to a more rigorous school. For me, the library was a refuge from harassment, whether it be at school or at home. In spite of the fact my parents tried to sabotage my performance by picking fights, I performed very well on my national exams. I went to university on academic scholarships. Like Mr Nugent, moving, getting out from under their roofs did me a world of good. So did getting treated for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder by an expert. As an adult, some of my proudest accomplishments come because I’m a skilled leader, team builder and mentor. One of my proudest accomplishments was when a young lady, who I had mentored, became the youngest assistant manager of an internationally known fast food manager in the district. She credits having me as her first manager as part of her success. She watched how I managed, how I supported my staff, handled problems and occasionally meted out discipline. I wish her much future success. I’ve known at least 2 people who “were on the spectrum”. They don’t have the soft people skills necessary to function as an effective manager or leader. However, when I’m under extreme duress, the first thing that goes are my people skills.

    Be aware that children who have undergone long-standing, severe trauma and abuse *can* appear to the non-expert (and that includes teachers) as having Asperger’s. This is why a careful clinician will perform a 360 degree evaluation. Parents should not be surprised when the clinician asks questions about your relationships, the quality of your marriage, etc. when a child who is suspected of having high-functioning Autism or Asperger’s Syndrome is being worked-up. A clinician has to rule-out Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and various forms of parental child abuse.


    Comment by Misdiagnosed — January 27, 2013 @ 5:29 pm

  3. Misdiagnosed? Your mention of the 360 degree evaluation is extremely important. Kids grow up in violent households and suffer beatings and verbal abuse at the hands of one or both of their parents so often. No survivor of child abuse should have to be victimized a second time around by being misdiagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome and then given therapy and medication that they do not need and will only mess up their lives even further. Also, there are way too many suicides resulting from corruption in our nation’s mental health profession.


    Comment by Subliminal Rocket — December 29, 2015 @ 6:58 pm

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